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youknowhowitfeels asked: You say you do not believe that you can fall in love at first sight, in your FAQ. This is because, you argue, that that ‘love at first sight’ thing is merely a mutual attraction. Honestly, that’s simplifying things vastly. I met my ex and the moment we met something changed. It wasn’t the mutual attraction of which you speak, it was quite honestly a feeling of mutual recognition. Something about him seemed so completely familiar - we both felt it, just a feeling that something, for both of us, had just fallen into place. I’ve met people and lusted after them before, and this was completely different. And we were in love – on the same wavelength, completely comfortable around each other, trusting of one another, despite our problems – from that day, for the vast majority of ourrelationship. We had our problems, of course, not least his quite genuine problems with forming trusting, lasting bonds. And then it ended. My mother – the most down-to-earth person I know – had a similar sort of experience on meeting my father. Her first thought when they met was, quite out of the blue, wow, giving birth to your babies is going to hurt (my father, like me, has a more than averagely large head). And what do you know but a year later she was doing just exactly that. 22 years later they’re still together, still happy, still in love. So please don’t reject the idea of ‘love at first sight’ just because it hasn’t happened to you, just because it is something people are quite frequently mistaken about (I’ll admit a lot of people claim to have fallen in love at first sight and they do quite simply mean what you described). It does happen. It’s rare, and it’s inexplicable, but it happens.
Sorry, but I still don’t believe in love at first sight. Not one bit, not even .1%. And there is nothing you can do to change that, no matter how many “experiences with love at first sight” you try and give me. I don’t mean to sound rude at all. I don’t not believe in it just because I haven’t experienced it, it’s just not something I believe could truthfully happen. Just like some people believe in God, some people believe homosexuality is sin, some people believe that love doesn’t even exist and that everyone is only fooling themselves, etc. You can’t change what I believe in by telling me you’ve experienced it. It’s like giving a religious person evidence that God doesn’t exist. It’s kind of useless.
rachaelrae asked: What does being on a “break” mean?
It has a different meaning for everyone, really. To me, it’s a stage between being together and being broken up. It’s when you need to figure out things for yourself but you don’t want to completely break it off for whatever reason.
anonymous asked: i agree with the girl thats pmsing you need to update your shit more.
Okay, not to be mean, but you need to sit down, shut the fuck up, and let me run my blog. I know this may seem foreign to you, but I have a life outside of this blog. I have other things I need to do, other things I need to take care of sometimes. And when tumblr’s queue decides to stop working and makes it so I have to manually post everything, my having a life will cause lack of posting. So either you suck it up and deal with it, or unfollow me. I really don’t care which it is.