We all know that there is so many different kinds of love out there. Romantic, family, friendship.. you get the jist. I’m writing this to talk about a love that seems normal from the outside. It’s a love of friendship between a boy and a girl dragging there feet through the streets of Philadelphia day in and day out.
There are the obvious differences between them. Brendan on the left is well, to state the obvious, Male. A much taller male than the tiny female on the Right, Morgan (Me!). But not only height and gender, music tastes, ages, upbringings, views of the world, so on and so forth set them apart from on another. There is a very important variable in the equation: Brendan is gay and Morgan is straight.
I know most girls, at least me and many that I know saw the Will & Grace series for years and years and dreamed of having a gay friend of there own one day. One to go shopping with, scope out cute boys with, one to pick out there outfits for the night with, you know, best gayfriend things. Well, it really is like that! There’s no smoke and mirrors here. Oh the wonderful things Brendan and I do together!
But it is not all a fairly tale. No, there is more to the story than shopping, drooling, and Lady GaGa sing-a-longs. You see, being a gay man or woman isn’t as easy as Will & Grace make it seem. It goes so much deeper. The hatred the faces on a daily basis, the cruel remarks, stereotypes; Brendan has seen and been through it all. There have been nights where he’s come to me crying because of the harsh words of someone else. I’ve reeked havoc on many who don’t respect him and treat him the way he deserves to be treated.
Before I met Brendan I never fully understood how hard it could be to know you’re just a little bit different from everyone else. I never understood how confusing and hard it could be growing up with a secret so big, and trying to find the words to tell those around you that you are gay. I never knew that saying things like “That’s so gay!” or “You’re such a fag.” hurt so deep, even when it’s just to a friend acting silly. Brendan changed me. He made me a better person. He taught me to have a bigger heart, to be more mindful of the things I say because you never know who you could be upsetting around you. He taught me to be more accepting of any person because there is so much more to discover inside of them. He also taught me how to dress better! It really does change you, seeing a person struggle to be who they are when there are so many people around you that don’t approve. It’s a fight he will never battle alone because I will never let him. I will always be there for him, and I know he will always be there for me. It’s a love that goes so deep it will never be lost.
by modickkk