Often all we care about is love. Love seems to be what comes out of our lips in conversations. Whether it is about being with the one you love, or out searching for the one.
It is all cliche with the whole ‘Mr. Right’ thing, and we should all know that it is also cliche to ‘wait’ for that perfect guy to come walking along and magically bumping into us.
As cliche as it is, it’s true. Ever heard of the saying “Good things come unexpected”? Love is that one thing that cannot be forced. It cannot be planned. Love cannot be expected, unexpected, or challenged. Love is surprising and can hit you right in the head when you least want it. Love plays around our hearts, and no matter how hard you try, it won’t stop unless it wants to.
Searching for love is stupid. One should never search for love. If you’re meant to be with someone, it will be most perfect if met spontaneously; if the relationship started to feel like ‘fate’. When you’re trying to look for that guy, he just won’t come. I mean, with all due respect, I guess there is always that one chance that you search for love and he becomes your love of your life and married husband of 40 years. I mean that can happen, but, for most of us, it’s not that fairytale like. To find the one, you’ll probably go through a dozen heartbreaks. To find the one, you’ll probably give up on love at least once. To find the one, you’ll probably not even be too into it at first. Finding the one isn’t easy. And it won’t be awhile till you know that he IS the one.
When searching for love, what do you put in your mind?
‘I want someone to be there for me’
‘I want someone good-looking and popular’
‘I want someone that shares all my habits and have everything in common with me’
‘I want someone who understands me and will love me for who I am’
or just simply,
‘I want someone who will love me’
The one isn’t just someone who will be there for you. The one isn’t just someone that is good-looking or popular. The one isn’t just someone who will share your habits, or have things in common with you. The one isn’t just someone who will understand you, love you. The one is all of that, and so much more.
It’s not just about finding someone who will fill in the time. How many guys that are you friends are there for you? It’s not just about finding someone that is good-looking. How many guys out there are attractive? It’s not just about finding someone who will love you, is nice, kind. There are tons of these people out there. Tons of guys that will be there for you. Tons that are good-looking, and nice. Tons with the whole package.
But the one isn’t just that. The one is someone who will know things before you even do. The one is someone who is ready to sacrifice everything for you even before you say ‘Yeah, I’ll go out with you’ to him. The one is someone who will love you for you who are, and most for who you’re not. The one is someone who wants exactly what you want, needs whatever you need. The one is someone who will support you in everything you do, even if that means leaving them behind.
You can’t just search for this guy. Out of the whole population in the world, there is that one guy walking around waiting for you too. Going through everything you are. Probably been heartbroken more than a dozen times.
We are all human, we all deserve to be loved. We were born to have another, so there is no doubt that you would be loved. Good things come unexpected. Sometimes, it’s when you least want it, that he will come.
But before anything happens, take a look around. While you are so busy searching for love, is there one that is already there that you haven’t taken notice of? That one guy that is always there to listen to you complain about being single. The guy that you turn to for everything. The one that seems to know you’re upset without you even saying a word. The one that will stop playing his games to cheer you up.
Is there a guy near you like that?
Have you ever thought why he was always so nice, why he never got angry, why he was always there? Have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, he was waiting for you to notice him?
We girls don’t take much notice of things, especially when it’s grown on us. But a lot of times we miss out on a perhaps love, because we’re too busy searching for it in the wrong direction, not realizing we had one in front of us the whole time.
So if you’re single, and you’re starting to grow tired of being single. Don’t be. Enjoy it, as what is coming towards you, will be much more exciting if you’re not expecting it. So grab a coffee, hang out with your best friends, and just remind yourself that what you’re waiting for, is waiting for you too.