I’ve learned a lot within the past two years. I fell in love with my best friend, it was long distance at first, then we finally got our own apartment together. Words can’t describe how amazingly perfect it was. I dont know how long you guys have been following this tumblr, but I have been for quite a while when I was with my boyfriend I had submitted this 100 reasons. Idk about a year maybe two years ago. Me and him had the most perfect relationship. If you’ve read the 100 reasons then you could have seen how lucky i was. how special he was to me, and i was to him. i would do anything for him. It came to a bitter end in march of this year, BUT I’m not here to talk about my relationship with him, I’m here to tell you what I’ve learned from it.
If you love each other nothing and I mean absolutely NOTHING can get in between you two. If their parents don’t like you, you better be going out of your way to impress them. NEVER take them for granted, because you will regret it. Do things they want to do, even if you don’t enjoy it. It will teach them to try doing things that you enjoy. You never know when the last moment you have with them, so you better live every moment like its your last. Don’t fight and argue, what does this do? It pisses both of you off. If you feel like you’re going to lash out and lose your mind, go hop in the shower, simmer down, collect your thoughts, then once you feel ready to talk to them in a calm manner about what ever it was you were upset about then talk to them, don’t yell. Don’t even raise your voice, just explain to them what they did that made you mad and explain to them how it made you feel and how you would like to see it change. When you love someone you want to see them happy right? so plan a date, GIRLS why don’t you plan a date that you dream of? Don’t just think he sits around all day trying to read your mind so he knows exactly how you want things to play out. You need to be assertive. Tell him what you want, plan a cutesie little date. get a blanket, make sandwiches and go find a field to have a picnic in. its not hard. its so easy and so harmless, but it means a lot to him that you put effort into something so little. If you live with him, why dont you make him lunch and put random things in the bag. like a fork if he has a pb&j, he will think its so cute. trust me, making his lunch was something i looked forward to everyday. and to get his text “really sprinkles? i have soup” it makes you smile trust me. if you dont live with him arrange a date where you can bring him lunch, he would much rather sit in the car with you than sit in work. My boyfriend worked nights, and i would leave him notes on the counter so when he walked in he could read them then come snuggle up to me in the morning. Play video games with him, or when hes playing video games ask him if he wants anything, cater to your man. he will like it. words cannot stress “its the little things that matter”. anything you want him to do but he doesn’t, why aren’t you doing it for him? you’re not a princess, everything isn’t going to be handed to you by him. you need to be independent, you need to stand up for your self. but most importantly you need to do whats right for yourself. if you’ve recently broken up with someone you cannot get out of your head you need a distraction or to talk to him.
after all this time of us being apart nothing can fill the void, i was head over heals in love with this guy. i would have done absolutely anything for him. it never should have ended we could have made it work but we gave up. we gave up on the most important person in our lives, each other. on thanksgiving i couldnt take the dreams anymore i couldnt take crying about him every night, so i gave him a text. i asked if he could see a future for us. and he told me id have to work for it. so im going to, im not going to let him slip away, i never should have walked away. we have gone through wayy to much to just give up like we did. im going to do anything in my power to get him back hes perfect for me. its taken me 8 months to realize it, but better late than never, right. im not giving up. im giving him my all. i love him still. not one time have i ever doubted my love for him. sorry this was kind of a vent. but its just going to show that when you love someone don’t take them for granted. go out of your way to show them your love. you’ll regret you didn’t when their gone forever.