1. Expect too much out of your guy- come on, we do hardly anything and we expect a Prince Charming? In real life, we need to work and put effort in the relationship too, ladies. And it’s actually better that way.
2. Ignore him or act mad when he did something you thought was wrong, instead maybe…talk to him? Gosh, I know I’m so guilty of this…but it’s just so easy to get mad and jealous and frustrated when you’ve been together for a while. There are new girls he could get with, who are prettier, and you know you’re not that great of a catch, right? Wrong. If he’s with you, he sees something in you, or he’s doing it on a dare. But either way, talk to him about what’s bothering you. He will probably not blow it off, and you guys can work on it together. Though, he should give you space when needed.
3. Tell all of your closest girl friends about the latest argument you were in. Oh, it’s great to vent to your friends. They relate, they know what to say, they tell you that you were right and he was wrong. It makes you feel so much better. But your friends will remember your guy as the boy who’s a horn-dog, and won’t like him anymore. You don’t want that. If you must, talk to your closest friend that you can trust with your life…otherwise, solve it with your boyfriend.
4. Make everything serious. Take a fucking joke. Just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean he can’t make dumb ass jokes with you that you would normally laugh at if it weren’t your boyfriend making them. I made such a mistake with this, and I don’t think this advice is ever given enough.
5. Try to find deeper meaning in his words, texts and actions. Most people don’t have symbolism and secret themes in their words, so don’t try and think that your guy is any different. What he says is probably the truth. Unless you have reason to believe otherwise, don’t worry about what it means when he says ‘I’m fine,’. It probably just means he’s (omg) fine! Weird, right?
6. Control him. I know you’re itching to tell him to stop hanging out with that pretty girl who’s in a band who seems like the coolest, most fun chick ever, but she’s probably lamer than she looks anyway (or at least that’s what you tell yourself). And you’re probably thinking about shooting a text saying that he should cancel hanging out with his closest guy friends to hang out and watch a movie with you instead- and hey, how could he resist? Watching movies with you means (probably) a good action flick while he gets some action from you. But stop. He needs a social life, he can’t be wrapped up in you all the time, and you need to give him a reason to miss you, anyway. It’ll give you something to talk about- and there’ll be no resentment on his side from loss of friend time. But he should make time for you (more time for you than that pretty girl, at least).
7. Stop appreciating him. It’s easy to do when you’re in a long-term relationship. Remember to compliment him, and remind him how much you love him. It’s not hard, but it’s easy to skip over.
8. Think it’s okay to say things you know would hurt you. I know he’s a guy, but boys have emotions, too. Surprise! You’re welcome on that enlightening fact. He might not be as sensitive as you, but he probably wouldn’t appreciate you saying that you hate him, or that he’s an awful boyfriend, or that he sucks at sex. Guys can feel just like girls, they’re just told to suck it up. So don’t be a fucking crazy psycho bitch. Unless he likes that shit.
9. Let him pay for everything. Just like us, boys aren’t made of money. Pitch in, pay halfsies for gas and meals. Otherwise you’re just being a diva, and unless your man is a millionaire, I don’t see why you’d pretend you were so glamorous. This is the 21st century, women make money and can be breadwinners, too.
10. Settle. Never settle for a guy who treats you poorly. But realize what treating poorly is- no, it isn’t him not taking you on enough dates, it isn’t him not complimenting you enough, it isn’t him not making you happy. You make yourself happy, he’s just there to make life better and be a best friend who can kiss you whenever he pleases and love you to your hearts content. Treating poorly is hitting, verbally abusing, not being there for you, cheating. Don’t you dare settle for that, you are better than that, and you are perfect and will find someone better even if you don’t think so. Love yourself before you love anybody else.
I just made this to say what I’ve learned from experiences and such. I don’t know everything about relationships- but this seems to be the biggest mistakes girls make.
by youremysin