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1. Firstly, being drunk is not an excuse or a scapegoat for cheating. Ever. But aside from that, I don’t think what you did was even cheating. Nowadays, that’s just considered dancing. But it’s not about who considers what as cheating. It’s about the fact that what you did is hurting him, and we need to address that. It’s okay for him to be jealous, and it’s even okay for him to be hurt, but we can both agree that he’s taking this a bit far. You have to talk to him about letting go. He needs to let go of this and realize that it was such a small act, it could have gone down a lot worse. Try bargaining with him. If you do drink, maybe promise him you won’t drink anymore to cut down on the chances. Just make him feel like his feelings are appreciated, but also help him realize that he needs to move on from this.
2. I feel like “I like being single” is code for “I don’t want to be in a relationship.” So even if he does start liking you that way, I don’t think he’ll want to commit to anything with you. He might want to hook-up sometimes, but I don’t think that’d be healthy if you see him as more than a friend. All in all, I don’t think you should wait for him.
1. Do what you want to. Listen to your mind and your heart, and find out what is most important to you. Do you want to risk the friendship by starting a relationship? Or is the chance of starting a relationship worth the risk? Friendship is the foundation for a lot of relationships, so you might not even lose the friendship at all. Just find out what you want most, and then go with it.
2. Be productive, and do things that make you happy. Go out with your friends. Go see a movie. Read. Draw. Whatever it is that makes you happy and doesn’t make you think of him constantly.
3. It is totally believable, but I still think you should talk to him about it. He needs to know that he can’t wait for a relationship where he’s not afraid to lose the other person. That’s part of being with someone you care about. It’s completely normal to be afraid to lose them. He can’t wait around for a relationship that most likely isn’t going to happen.
1. I’m not entirely sure what your problem is, unless I’m not getting it. Although, I do get that you’re upset that he talked to your ex, but I’m not sure that’s so unforgivable! If that’s the only problem, then I think you should try your best to find it in your heart to forgive him. Some things aren’t worth losing so much over. :)
2. You really just need time to heal. I agree with your friends. You should move on from him. You shouldn’t have to give someone eight chances, especially if they break every single one. The only thing that will help you is time. You need him out of your life. You have to break up with him, but also cut off contact, and try to focus on your own happiness without him. Go out with your friends more. Do things that make you happy. Over time, it will be easier and you’ll feel much better in the long run.
3. Every guy shows it differently. The shy ones will be subtle, and maybe just throw a compliment here and there or maybe get a friend to send you hints. The outgoing ones will be all over you and be more physical. It really depends on his personality.