I don’t understand why people go into long distance relationships.
- You can never see each other “just because”.
- You have to work twice as hard to stay in touch.
- You’ll miss them 90% of the time.
- Worded conversations aren’t the same as face-to-face ones.
- They could cheat, and you’d have no clue.
- The person they are in real life, could be completely different than what you thought/expected.
- They could look completely different.
- They could end up being too controlling and possessive.
- They could lie about anything and everything about themselves.
- JEALOUSY.
- You can’t be in their arms whenever you want to.
- You can’t kiss them whenever you want to.
- Stressing about when to see each other next.
- Loneliness.
And that’s why I’d never go into a long distance relationship.
I’ve already talked about long distance relationships before, but I’m reblogging this to give you a better understanding of why people go into these LDR’s.
When some people go into these relationships, they are not aware of all the difficulties they face; they just go into them because they care about each other. Other people go into it knowing the dangers that lie ahead and are willing to face them.
As time passes, these obstacles (jealousy, lack of time, distance, etc.) are all tests to prove who would stay with you against the odds—the people who tell you it is not going to work. Ultimately, you learn the importance of trust in relationships and if they do cheat, you learn that you cannot trust that person and move on—that is a variable amount of time.
I do not mean to judge you, but I can tell from your list that you are a needy person. Relationships are a lot more than just kissing, laying next to each other, and spending time together. They are also about two people who look to overcome these obstacles side-by-side because they are not restricted to LDR’s; they come with any relationship. In my LDR, I was willing to visit my girlfriend by taking the train to see her. Of course we missed each other, but we stayed together because we loved each other. A song told me “love has no distance, baby”. I think that is the absolute truth in real love.
So the point I am trying to make is that distance does not necessarily make the relationship any weaker. In fact, it can make it so much stronger than most relationships. It’s because that person is worth putting the effort, worth waiting weeks for, and worth being with. In these type of relationships, you learn to appreciate a person and that the strength of any relationship is absolutely dependent on the two people in it.
by tjisawsome