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anonymous asked: Hi, I just want to ask about something. My boyfriend and I have been together for over four years now. We haven’t had sex although I know he wants to.
I’m scared of having sex but he respects my decision and we’re both virgins. Do you think a guy can wait for over four years just so he can have sex with her?
I really doubt he’d stay with you for four years just to have sex with you. If he wanted to just get laid, he’d probably go to a nightclub or something.
anonymous asked: I’m currently having a hard time deciding what to do and I need some help from an outside source. I’ve had a lot of bad luck in the past year with relationships or I guess I should say “almost” relationships. My best friend decided to set me up with a guy who is friends with her boyfriend. I agreed, but wasn’t so sure about it. We started texting (we were on winter break from college) and I started to like him. Quite a bit. He was very receptive to me and we enjoyed talking with each other constantly. We talked about a week and a half before we decided to meet in the middle for coffee. I woke up that day completely terrified that he was going to hate me. I canceled and just said I was feeling super crappy (which I had been). We agreed to meet two days later with some friends on a group date. It went pretty well, but I don’t do well in group setting because I’m shy and it just gives me a reason not to talk. After that, he still seemed receptive, but it was like something had changed.
We talked and agreed to meet again for coffee one night. He was tired and I was still kind of afraid that I got myself into something that would break my heart once again. We had a lot of fun and of course, a lot to talk about. We agreed to hang out again by ourselves when we got back to school. The night came and we painted together and had a few drinks. We ended up cuddling and I kissed him on the cheek and he totally went for it. We made out for…a while and then I just sat up and had to ask him what he was wanting. I ruined the moment, whatever…but he’s moving to a different school because they don’t have what they need for him here and I’m two years older than him and graduate in December. He said he really likes me and I’m cute and he just wants to “chill”, but not get into anything serious as to keep either of us from getting distracted from our schoolwork (we both have incredibly difficult and busy semesters that kind of make or break our chances of getting into different schools). I’m kind of okay with that, but I just want to make sure he’s not just using me for whatever and whenever he wants something. We both have difficult time finding people we relate to in every sense of the word. Do you think he’s using me? or afraid to get into a relationship because we’re leaving? He hates lying and I know he’s completely honest about that. I just don’t know if I should just “chill” with him if I want a relationship with him. I understand and I’m okay with it, but I don’t think I will be for long.
I really think you should just take the risk. To be honest, you’re overthinking this WAY too much. I don’t see even the slightest hint that he could be using you at all, or that any of his intentions are wrong. Take a risk. Hang out with him, get to know each other. You never know. What if something amazing comes out of it?
emohve asked: I don’t have many followers but I thought of this ‘day challenge’ you should post on your site to spread the word.
‘Reason why I love my significant other’ day challenge.
-Everyday write something new about why you love your significant other (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) and see how many days you could last posting NEW reasons why.
It’s interesting. I kind of already do that with a blog I made for my boyfriend. :) I think other people should try the challenge too, though.