When I read this quote, I immediately thought “what a clingy person”. Loyalty becomes measured by how often they choose you over others. Others can be friends and in extreme cases, family. Frequent visits must mean they want you, right? Yes, you can see it like that. However, there are circumstances when them being around you cannot be due to wanting you.
1. Sex
2. Routine
3. Guilt
4. Nothing better to do
If you found out any of the above to be the reason, you’d probably have varying emotions. You might despise them for reasons one and four. You’ll feel miserable for reason two. And then there are people who would “abuse” their boyfriend through guilt tripping.
When you keep that quote in mind, your relationship is based on time spent together instead of the experience or even the actions that surround it. The latter tells much more.
A man who prioritizes over things over you doesn’t necessarily love you any less. He has important things in his life besides you. Yes, there are important things in life than a significant other or even more important. The same applies to women. She can also have more important things to worry about. We have our futures, our jobs, and our roles in life.
“If he did care about me, he’d pick me over his friends and all of these other things?”
Wrong. You may think that actions speak louder than words should apply, but that’s stupid. Relationships require trust, not second guessing how he feels about you over little instances. In fact, by incessantly poking at this, you’re just pointing out the fact that you cannot be secure in a relationship.
A man’s love is different from a woman’s love, but that doesn’t mean their love is any less. Remember that next time you question how much your boyfriend cares about you.
by tjisawsome