anonymous asked: firstly i love your site so cute and i have a question right so theres this boy and i really like him i taught he liked me too but apparently he’s dealing with some next chick…yeah i’m really confused about dealing but should i just give up on him or keep fighting for him ? thanks <3
It depends. How certain are you that he’s going after a different girl? I think you should talk to him and find out what he wants first, and then decide if you still want to go after him or not.
anonymous asked: i live in maryland. my old neighbor from when i was a child moved away, and we found each other on the internet and began texting. we had started talking last year and he told me he liked me, but i was preoccupied with my now exboyfriend. now that things are over with my ex, i started talking to him again and realize i kind of like him. the problem is i live in maryland and he lives in new jersey, and i’m afraid he might be angry at me for breaking his heart before. if i told him i liked him, how could i make the long distance work?
Long distance is tricky, but if you are sure that you want to take it on, then that’s the first step to making it work. The next is communication. This is the most important thing in a relationship where you can’t see each other. You have to talk to him as much as possible, and NOT just texting or talking on the computer. You have to talk on the phone or webcam as well, you have to have some kind of contact other than just text on a screen. Also, plan out when you are going to see each other. It gives the relationship some security. Good luck!
algelpitos asked: i love your blog! amazing! :)
Thank you. :)
anonymous asked: I think this might be a good site to have around, it may be useful one of these days.
Maybe you might even need it now. Be the first to use it.
http://kaylasadvice.tumblr.com/
I don’t need it right now, but someone else might. :)
your-temporary-eternity asked: hello, can you please delete what I submitted?
thank you.
Could you give me the link to the post please?
anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over a year and for the most part we’ve been happy. But, he has this crazy ex who stalks him and has her friends do the same and they all really got in the way of our relationship because I didn’t know what was true, and what was lies. He hurt me so much in the beginning of our relationship by telling me constantly about details of their sex life and showed me pictures and lied about certain things I didn’t understand the need to lie about. I built up a wall to him, so he couldn’t hurt me, and I eventually starting hating him but loving him at the same time. So I finally got sick of hiding my pain and told him and he said he’d change. He has been changing, and he feels so terrible about all he ever did to me and I see and I hear it in his voice but no matter how hard I try I can’t get over it all. So what I’m asking is, how do I get over this? I love him and I don’t wanna anyone else but him, but I don’t know if I can ever honestly get over this and be happy with him. I want to make this work so bad it’s just it won’t get outta my head.
I had a similar experience to this one. When we first started dating, my boyfriend was still not over his ex. And even when he did get over her, part of him still held onto her in a way, which made him talk about her all the time, relate a lot of things we did to things he did with her, etc. That went on for a long, long time, but now he is completely changed. It took me months for it to really settle in, but it did eventually, and I couldn’t be happier now. So basically, he needs to prove it to you with time, and it may take a long time. But it will definitely be worth it. This is NOT something that should ruin a relationship.
anonymous asked: Your story about you and your relationships, and how you finally ended up with that one amazingly perfect person for you is just adorable.
how long have you two been together? and is he really what you’d consider the one? or are you not quite sure about that just yet?
-karen (:
Thank you. :) As of today, we’ve been together for exactly 20 months (a year and 8 months). I don’t know if he is “the one” yet, but I can see myself spending a really long time (if not forever) with him, yes.
melissaheather asked: I absolutely love your tumblr. It gives me hope for love. I just read your story and views on love. I honestly thought you were older than 17. You sound so wise and sound like you’ve experienced a lot. Stay strong and keep bloggin ;D
Thank you, dear. :) A lot of people are surprised when they find out my age.
kbrund asked: did you get my submission?
Probably, but I don’t post every submission.
-littleredballoon asked: I am possibly the luckiest girl on the earth. I have a wonderful boyfriend who has a job, a car, is strikingly gorgeous, and on top of it all and most importantly..has the biggest heart I’ve ever found in a person. He is passionate about life, adventure, and knowledge. He strives to take care of me and my family, offering help when he can and driving me to and from places I need to go. He is a hopeless romantic, deep, and will make the best father ever. This boy..loves me. And I can tell. He has never cheated on me and even gave up smoking cigarettes and marajuana for me (both make me sick). He is literally, the perfect man. I am blessed that he is not only my boyfriend, but my best friend. But lately..I’ve been having second thoughts.
I am a pansexual girl. I have always been curious about other girls and haven’t ever had a real relationship with one..and I’m wondering if I am missing out on something (possibly?) better. I find that hard to believe..but it’s something on my mind lately. And now, I’m finding that he is slowly starting to feel more like a friend to me instead of an intimate partner. When we engage in sexual activities..I just don’t feel as into it as before. I often think of women instead. I love him with my entire being, but I am confused as to what I want.
I have talked with him a little about this and it breaks my heart because he just..wants me happy. He said that no matter what I do, he’ll always love me and be my best friend. I really deeply love him, too. The last thing I would ever want to do is hurt him..but I can’t lie to myself. I really don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be like, “Oh, lets just put our relationship on hold for a bit so I can see other people (women) and then if I like them more, we’ll just be friends but if not, take me back?”. I find that to be so hurtful and I couldn’t bring myself to leave him. Plus, the thought of him with another girl..I can’t even think about that. It makes me sick.
I’m so unsure of what to do..any advice? I’m willing to accept anything now..
If you need any other information, please ask.
Thank you so much.
I think that you need to talk to him more about this. I know that you don’t like the idea of going on a break, but maybe you could talk to him about letting you experiment for a little while in order to figure things out for yourself. If he lets you, then you won’t be hurting him, and you’ll get a better idea of what you want. :)
anonymous asked: Do you think that 14-year olds can love eachother even if they go to different schools? even if the went out before then one of them(the girl) went out with other guys? even if the guy liked other girls? Do you think it’s possible that people who are 14 can love eachother?
P.s. they both kept eachother in their mind but they thought that they should have to move on.
and sorry for being anon, I don’t wanna be judged
Love happens anyway, anyhow, to anyone. Of course it is possible to love someone who is in a different school. People love each other when they are towns, states, even countries apart. It is also possible to still love someone throughout tough circumstances, because love will weigh out anything that happens to the both of you. And while it’s unlikely that 14 year olds are truly in love with each other, it is possible.
anonymous asked: i dont trust love. or marriage. i dont think i dont trust marriage more because i have seen so many marriages go back on their commitment to each other and get a divorce.
the trust between two people to be together forever just doesnt seem plausible for me anymore. i wish i didnt see it this way but im scared to really love someone because i have so many expectations of my dream guy. i know i wont have a perfect guy but i dont see how i can really give myself to a guy and i dont see how someone will understand every single part of me. or accept every part of me.
like. what. i also feel like my situation is difficult. idk.
i get so jealous these people that feel so happy.
You have to just think of it from a different perspective. Would you be able to understand every single part of a person? Would you do your best to accept all that they are, even the bad things? If yes, then why wouldn’t someone do the same for you? The answer is simple; they would. You will find someone just like everyone else, and one day, you won’t have to be jealous of happy couples anymore. As for your thing about marriage, that is exactly the reason why I want to become a marriage counselor. The divorce rate doesn’t have to be so high. People CAN work through their problems, and so many marriages DO NOT need to fail. They can be saved.
anonymous asked: Im currently confuse and lost. My boyfriend and I broke up and I dont know what to think. I dont understand whats going on now because now he has a new girlfriend. Literally a week ago he was crying because he wanted to be with me so bad because I told him he changed. I gave him a couple days to think about it, then he comes back to me 2 days later saying he cant be with me because I deserve better this and that. We decided to stay friends, but when I asked him if there was someone else he said yes, and he kissed her a day before he actually broke up with me. Of course I was hurt and I just couldnt stay friends and he got mad at me. Were now currently not at all talking, and he keeps saying hes happy and this and that. It bothers me because how can you be on your knees one week crying over me, then a couple days later you act like a totally different person and you act like we never had nothing? I dont get it. :(
This sounds like a situation my best friend is in. They weren’t dating, but her and this guy were VERY into each other (they did date at one point also). They flirted all the time and talked on the phone every single night, and he’d always say things like “i wish I could be with you” and things like that, until he changed. He used excuses like “I’m tired.” to avoid talking on the phone, he didn’t call her petnames anymore, etc. And then she found out he had a girlfriend. Just out of the blue. It’s a confusing situation, but what I THINK happened is because he doesn’t want to hurt you, so he completely changed once he found someone else. He figures that it’s easier for you if he pretends you never had anything with him and if he doesn’t talk to you, just like the situation with my best friend.