cbrin asked: i recommended you :] i love your blog. i smile every time i read one of the stories
Thanks so much! :)
anonymous asked: there’s this guy, and he has my heart. I’m in love, he’s done so much sacrifices for me, that i couldn’t give back, now, he’s asking me to leave him because of a huge fight, but I just can’t, but I would do anything to make him happy, to see that beautiful, wonderful smile on his face. like he said he would have if i wasn’t there.. Should I do it, or shouldn’t i…
What I think you should do is wait it out a bit. Wait until the stress from the fight has cooled off and then talk about it and see what he really wants from you. Don’t wait too long though. Also, I find it kind of strange that he’s asking you to leave him. If he doesn’t want to be together with you anymore, then why doesn’t he just leave you himself?
anonymous asked: I guess that would work. Thanks for the help. I’ll try and talk to him about the dating situation. Thanks :D
Let me know if everything works out. :)
anonymous asked: Hi, soooo. im in a sort of relationship with this guy that ive been best friends with for 5 years now, and we’re not at all official, although we are very serious about each other, there is just no label in it but as Facebook puts it “its complicated” he told me he loved me, and i love him also. but sometimes, me and him face some real trust issues. like how he really doesnt trust me, and sometimes i also don’t trust him. me and him both have not the best history. so i understand where these trust issues stem, but i wanna know how we could improve on trying to trust each other more, its really hard kus im really jealous and so is he… help!
xoxo, kz.
Well, you are doing the right thing by not getting into a relationship together. While I do believe that it’s of course possible to fall in love with someone without trusting them, it is IMPOSSIBLE to form a healthy relationship when trust isn’t there. Anyway, I think you should continue your “it’s complicated” relationship and sort out your trust issues that you have with each other. Depending on what they are, it may take a long time, but it will definitely be worth it. Talk to him about working on those issues and see if he’s willing to work with you on that and also fix his. :)
tjisawsome asked: Hey Katie. Thanks for promoting my advice blog/publishing my posts. I really appreciate it a lot. I hope you enjoy reading them too. Also, how’ve you been?
Hey. :) It’s no problem at all, and I’m really glad that you’ve submitted so many posts to me. I’ve been good. All of my stress is pretty much gone because I finished my applications. How have you been?
simplycaitlinx asked: To the person who said their boyfriend cheated and regrets it, but they can’t decide whether to stay or not:
My boyfriend cheated on me once upon a time, and due to the situation I gave him an ultimatum (he couldn’t be friends with the girl anymore) and stayed with him. He had to earn my trust back very slowly, but now we’ve been together almost 3 years (he cheated 6 months in, long time ago) and he has been perfect. He loves me to death and does a lot for me. So, depending on your situation, you could just give him a chance, OR if you need reassurance, issue an ultimatum (IE. “I have to be allowed to go to *blank* with you because that is where it happened.” or “I have to have access to your Facebook.”) Just things that normally wouldn’t happen or be done, but if he REALLY wants to make it up to you, he will do as you say within reason. As a side note, the girl my boyfriend cheated on me with (and dropped as a friend as my ultimatum) had been his close friend for 5 years, but he dropped her without a fight to prove to me he was sorry. That was mostly what got me, but he was also crying and terrified I would just dump him on sight when he told me. Sincerity can be heard in the voice and seen in the eyes, but actions matter too, if not more so. I hope this helps. Good luck. :)
Well like I said, I really think it depends on the person. But hopefully this will help that person. :)