This is more or less similar to the article What Happened to All the Nice Guys?
Every once in a while, I hear the statement “chivalry is dead”. While a good amount of males do not understand chivalry, there are still guys who do. There are gentlemen who would open doors for ladies to walk through, pull out chairs for you to sit down, among other things.
However, once the male does not have the look of your knight in shining armor, he is not chivalrous. He is the total sweetheart and you send him to the dungeon known as the Friend Zone. His mind is locked on you and he becomes a prisoner. During your day to day activities, he is willing to be the friend. He is willing to spend days hanging out with you, sit there as you talk about this guy you like, and lie about his own feelings for some other girl. However, he just wants to break out of these locks and he wants to be with you.
As you date all these assholes, he hopes that within time you’ll see him in a different light—he was there after all. As people continued to pester you with the idea about him, you dismissed him because he’s just a friend. By failing to even talk to him, you end up just leading him on. Eventually, he changes himself knowing that the way he is now cannot possibly get you. Sure, he may act nice, but nowhere near as nice as he used to be. As time progresses, he becomes more and more like an asshole. The mindset of a nice guy becomes absent and he stays that way. However, there is a chance he might not be an asshole forever.
What you ladies fail to realize is that these chivalrous knights do exist, but if they do not look the part under the armor, then you place him in a different position. If you do so, do not lead him on. Sure, you may not think of him in that manner, but you should also consider the possibility that he does have feelings. There is always that chance that he just becomes another one of those assholes, but for a different girl. The next time you make the statement “chivalry is dead”, think it over. There was a guy who had all these qualities, but he just wasn’t “your type”.
by tjisawsome