Note: This was a reaction post to another Tumblr, but she deleted her entry
From a logical perspective, it is impossible to understand. You would think after the first or second time, they would move on and realize that they are better off alone or with someone else. Unfortunately, they don’t know any better and their heartache just continues along with their tears.
I don’t know about her being driven by lust, but it’s pretty clear that she just cannot let go. If he was her first love, then that changes the circumstances. I am not saying that just because she’s a girl. First loves are usually the hardest to get over, especially if it was the first serious relationship of her life. Now I am going to stray from the first love thought.
People who are accustomed to having a significant other in their lives have problems being alone. It is almost like a routine and to break from that schedule can make life devastating, like the daily “I love you’s”, the kisses goodbye, the weekly cuddling, or dinner dates. I know the feeling. What’s even worse is that they are likely to form unstable relationships even with compatible partners; it’s because they are just so afraid of being alone once again and their relationship is one of main contributors to their happiness, if not the “only”.
So to understand why people stay in unhealthy relationships, you have to really experience once yourself. We think that our true love should also be the one who we are afraid to the lose the most in life. I wouldn’t doubt that , but our true love should also be the one who loves us back. People forget that love—like all relationships—is a two way street. Blinded by our own happiness, we mistake “The One”. It’s because we hold onto the idea that the person who has given us all those feelings of happiness and anguish is without a doubt “The One”. Love is by no means perfect, but people should not confuse love with a relationship covered in lies and deceit.
by tjisawsome