It kind of bothers me... (On the vilification of sex)

When you read the cutesy little “I WISH” things on cutesy blogs— you know, the ones about cuddling?— and somewhere in all of them is, “NO SEX.”

Okay, I get that you don’t want it to just be about sex, but what’s the point of making sure that it is, without a doubt, not going to be a part of the intimacy?

When it’s between two people who honestly love and care about one another, how is it anything other than intimate and beautiful?

Today, I woke up with my boyfriend laying in bed beside me. We smiled at each other, said our sweet “good morning”s, and discussed whether or not he should get up so as to be ready to get to his train on time— or if he just wanted to stay an extra day in spite of his previous plans and arrangements.

He decided to stay, especially when I made the exceptional point that today (now yesterday) is (was) an excellent cuddling day; lots of wind and rain and cold, y’know? We cuddled in bed for a while, and then we had sex, and then we cuddled some more. Or, you could say, we made love.
But that just sounds cheesy to me, I dunno. But the point is the same.

I love him. And he loves me. And sex is just one of the number of ways we show that to each other. And more than that, it’s such an intense experience in so many ways, and so rewarding. We are both so physically attracted to one another as well, and it’s a wonderful way to express that, and relieve stress, and just be close with one another.
Not to mention it’s just great and fun. xDD; 

So, for all of those girls out there who dream of a sexless relationship, I am deeply sorry. The both of you are going to end up very frustrated. That doesn’t mean that you should run out and have sex right away with every new one-week boyfriend or girlfriend. It means to find someone you care about and trust with your body— because you’re so vulnerable when you’re having sex with someone, even if you’re not fully naked, or even if it’s in complete darkness. You’re trusting them with something incredibly personal— so much so, that we keep it all hidden from everyone.

Sex shouldn’t be seen as a ‘bad guy’ or as being, somehow, un-romantic, or not cute. Because, although it can get sweaty and messy and gross, it also can be sweet and loving.

- later-gator.tumblr.com (mine)

- zachwatsonvstheworld.tumblr.com (his)